1 April 2013
"...Although anger can be destructive, it can also be creative. Out of anger can come the determination and vision to change things for the better”
The theme for boy’s club this term is handling our emotions and in the session the boys had the chance to let off some steam. We played a game where the young people had to shout out at the top of their lungs what they hate the most and immediately after they had five seconds to pound into a double folded Fatboy beanbag, which I had the pleasure of holding up.
As you can imagine some of them really went for it to the point where we had to hold them back and try and calm them down. These are not your conventional youth work methods and some people may think that we're crazy but what we are trying to do show these boy’s that feeling angry is normal.
The aim for this session was for the boys to go home knowing that anger is a normal emotion that everyone has to face and when we feel mistreated or disrespected, and the pressure starts boiling up in side us like a ticking time bomb about to explode. We have to find constructive ways of releasing it, Nick luxmore, reflecting on his work in schools says:
“young people need opportunities to express dissent, anger and hatred, because those feelings are real and don’t go away, however much a school may try to ignore them. Although anger can be destructive, it can also be creative. Out of anger can come the determination and vision to change things for the better”
These young people are able to do something that gets shunned in our adult hood and that is getting in touch with our feelings. Maybe it is our work ethic or our desire to be professional or we just don’t want to appear weak but I believe that our emotions are powerful and can give us the drive to destroy or build in every aspect of our lives.
I’ve been reflecting on my work with these boys by reading ‘Working with anger and young people” by Nick Luxmore